Cake Talk

 

Last week we talked about the stove… so today I suppose I’ll continue with that and kind of talk about the oven… more specifically something you would put in the oven. Like cake. Yes, that is it. Today I will talk about cake. We need to be on the same page here with this cake though so think of one of those delicious looking double layer cakes that has icing between the top and bottom cake layer and then icing all around. And there’s probably sprinkles on top… or strawberries… Feel free to use your imaginations on what flavour of cake and icing… actually I may find a picture of a piece of cake like this and post it. For a visual. Basically I’m picturing that slice of cake on the front of the cake mix box… which is NEVER how my cakes turnout…even though I clearly use a mix and pre-made icing…

Cakes. They make me off topic.

Ok ok for real now, Cakes. Here we go. My thought on cake today is that if our emotions were cake, what would that mean? What would that look like? Not sure if I will make any sense or even have a point but this is a thought I am pondering:

Are our emotions a happy cake with peaceful icing? OR Are our emotions a sad cake with angry frosting?

First, Let’s take a look at the happy cake. Would you consider the cake part of your emotions to be made up of ingredients such as God’s love, joy, and forgiveness with a delicious layer of patience and understanding icing on top? To me this seems like the best cake idea out there, the one I would want to pick from the cake recipe book. But this cake can be one of the trickiest cakes to make as obtaining the ingredients of such cake may take some sacrifices and trading. For instance if you only have bitter flour… you’re going to have to trade that in for forgiveness flour. Any ingredient that is old (from your past) that could taint the cake must be surrendered so that the cake will be light and fluffy and durable. It’s a tough cake to make sometimes but sooo worth it.

Now let’s take a look at that sad cake. Many times I see angry people (sometimes myself included) and one of my first thoughts is that they are barely angry, they are mainly sad/disappointed/upset/let down/hurting/etc. Cake-wise, most people know that there is cake underneath the icing. Moreover, emotion-wise your outward emotions can largely just be a distraction from the core emotion that’s upset you. You can’t focus on the icing to figure out what kind of cake is underneath. You can however begin to dissect the cake and figure out what ingredients went into the cake to make it upset: Betrayal, rejection, abandonment, cheating, lies, shame, abuse, loss?

Now there are MANY different ways to look at the many different emotional cakes out there but overall, if you want to learn how to have a better emotional cake you have to figure out what the best recipe is, and that means figuring out what produces a good outcome and what doesn’t. 

Baking questions to ask yourself:

1) What temperature is the cake to be baked at? 

  (Who do you surround yourself with for long periods of time?)

2) What ingredients go into the cake? 

  (Do you throw bitterness, frustration and hopelessness into every cake and hope it comes out different?)

3) Does the flour have to be sifted? 

  (Do you have to sift out any elements of your life to make yourself lighter/more at peace?)

4) What type of measurements are required? 

  (Do you spend more time in a bar by yourself than with people that care about you?)

It’s always easier to have cake that you like, and if you have a say in the matter wouldn’t you want to have a cake that is sweet instead of sour?

Give me a blank stare if anything I’m saying makes any sense.

Or don’t… I can’t actually see you.

This post got out of control. Guess how many times I said cake? NEW RECORRRRD.